On to line #2 of Our Family Creed: We Believe…we were brought together to support and care for one another.
When I asked Ladybug Girl who was on her team, she immediately said “my sister, Mommy and Daddy.” When I asked her what she would do if Snugglepuppy fell down, she said she’d help her up. When I asked her why we were brought together, she told me Jesus made us for each other. It’s simple. We look out for each other. We lift each other up (sometimes literally). We are a team.
My interview with a three-year-old doesn’t necessarily bring forth deep thoughts, but even at a young age she knows that we aren’t just a hierarchy; we are a full team. It’s not just that Mommy is the nurturer and Daddy manages the bills…our kids see parents who work together to ensure that not only are the finances under control, but that our house, our home flows smoothly…we work together to cook meals, clean the house, play and interact with our children…and the kids do their part as well–helping clean up, wiping the table, and spending special time with each family member individually…
Every person is important to the family, and every person likes to feel needed. Giving my children responsibility to think outside of themselves and consider the needs and desires of others is crucial to the family as a whole. Snugglepuppy doesn’t just need a diaper changed…she needs the emotional support that only her big sister brings. She thrives in watching her sister, and Ladybug Girl launches to her highest form when she has that admiring audience.
We all step up in this family. We all have roles to play, and we all encourage each other and lift each other up. When we see a passion in one of us, how can the rest of us support that? How can you encourage the things you each love? Security is not just in having physical fulfillment; it’s about that feeling of being a part of something bigger. My girls are not out in this world alone–they have a whole family backing them, and we can descend like army ants to support one another in life. I feel this does more than just give them security in knowing we’re there for one another…it also creates confidence and wisdom–those hair-brained ideas we all come across in our lives aren’t for us to digest alone, but thrown out to the whole family to digest and act as a sounding board of loving support and accountability. We as a group are the first set of peers and mentors we experience on a daily basis–so what are we doing every day to lift up, encourage, and motivate each other?
What are you doing in your family? How do you define support for your daughter? Your son? Your spouse?