Every person you come across will be touched by you. What impact will it be? Will it be words like “I’m sorry, I just am not that good at public speaking” or “My hair looks awful today” or will it be “Today is the first day of the rest of your life – how exciting!” or “I’m carrying my sunshine on the inside – how about you?” These may be cheese-ball comments, but at let me say this: every self deprecating comment you make not only impacts you, but it gives permission for every other person to do the same. When you say it and your children hear, that’s what they mimic. When you say it and your co-workers hear, you end up in a contest of who’s got it worse. When you say it and a stranger hears, they may remember how much they hate it themselves, or feel obligated to lie and cheer up your reality in hopes that you don’t pour the rain on theirs.
Don’t deny your feelings, but by God remember that you have good ones, too. Focus on those. Sometimes we have to be intentional and force ourselves to have the faith and the power to speak words of POSITIVE truth in our own lives even if we aren’t feeling it. It’s amazing how we find what we’re looking for. Look for sadness and you can always find it. Look for sunshine…you may just see a rainbow.
I can speak about believing in yourself so much, but I have those moments of doubt as well. I think the biggest thing is that I purposely choose to focus on the positive. I don’t deny the negative, but I choose to run to the bright side, to cling desperately to the good in myself, in my life, and in the people I come across.
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.” ~Chuck Swindoll