Posts Tagged ‘education’

I love my kids.  Really, I do.  And we work from home.  We see them a lot.  In order for us to not strangle get some time to refresh, we need a break from them during the week.  We don’t, however, need a 40-hour/week break (sometimes, it does sound nice).  We need a two day break where they are in an enriching environment away from our care so we can get our work completed and do those all so important adult tasks that aren’t kid friendly (and yes, that could include some um, recreational fun as well).

When kids are young, this is easy – there are preschools and mother’s day out programs all over the place.  Once they hit age 5, though, you’re SOL.  That’s what school is for!  For those of us that venture beyond the brick walls, we’ve got to find some help!

Enter in the homeschool co-op.  There are quite a few variations on this, but the one we’re looking for offers 1-3 days a week with teachers leading different subjects.  Here is a great example of one I’m looking at: The Center for Homeschool Enrichment Tutorial (CHET).  This may be an option for us.

The fifteen other awesome options in my area?  Perfect.  Except for one thing.  Here in the Bible Belt, right after someone asks you your name, the very next question is “where do you go to church?”  Thus it makes perfect sense that when I am looking to educate my children outside of the traditional school setting, the assumption is it is for spiritual reasons, I’m going to take them to a church, and in order to get into said church/co-op, I must have a pastoral recommendation.

That has been our biggest roadblock.  Out of all the legalese and things that could be a pain with non-traditional school, here I am not even allowed to take a tour of a co-op facility in the churches because I don’t have a pastoral recommendation.  They want to know what our worship attendance is, what our involvement in a church is, and exactly how much we put into the offering bucket every Sunday (okay, made that last one up).

I have been appalled by the “Christian Homeschoolers” – wow – the stereotype has been confirmed.  Homeschoolers are ultra conservative Christians who choose to only allow their children to connect with people who think exactly as they do unless it is an evangelical mission, which then allows for mingling with the “sinners.”  

Yes, yes, that is a gross generalization and cruel judgement on my part.  It is, however, the exact thoughts going on in my head when I hit the same roadblock with six great co-ops in the area.   I have to say, last week I was frustrated and pissed off at the lack of openness to a non-church-goer.  So, I’m coming here to vent, to say my piece, and then find the people that we can connect with.

If you are a Christian or if you are not, that’s not my focus here.  I want to connect with people eager for their kids to open their minds and hearts to the beauty the world has to offer, and all the people in it.  Give me like-mindedness in that alone, and the details on where (or if) we go to church are inconsequential.  If the word “homeschooler” puts me into the stereotype that the reason is only for religious purposes, then homeschooling is not what we’re doing.   Hmmm, more on that in the next post.


The incredible Albert Einstein had so many quotes we could use in our journey with education – not only was he a genius, he was not successful in the traditional school system and oftentimes bucked the norm (even with the hairdo).  So I bring you a great one:

It is our American habit if we find the foundations of our educational

structure unsatisfactory to add another story or wing.

~ Albert Einstein

It made me wonder…with us choosing something other than the expected private or public school program for our kids, are we merely trying to establish another “religion” in the quest for perfect education?   I hope not.  I don’t want to just add a different wing to education – another concept/theory/revolution of “school.”  There are so many out there, it’s overwhelming – there is public, private, homeschool, unschooling, k12, or any assortment of them, there are many programs out there to fall into.

The goal of our site is not to create another branch.  It’s to show you the pros and cons, the perks and cool features, the frustrations and triumphs in the non-traditional, non-conformist way we are choosing to school our children.  We’re new at this – we don’t want to reinvent the wheel.  We want to find the stinkin wheel first!

I don’t want “American Habit” when it comes to much, and I don’t want to create a “my way is right” mentality.  I want an overall understanding that you can find good in most anything, and learning is not confined to one program.  So let’s journey together and explore many programs/concepts/schooling options and embrace the ones that work for our kids, period.

Well, well, well.  One week into a new site and I get the opportunity to do an hour-long video interview with The Homeschool Netcast Network!  Oh so coincidentally, Gerald interviewed my father, Dan Miller, the week before, so he got the perspective of a “retired” homeschool dad, so his goal was to interview me as a homeschool-ee.  However, little did he know at the time that I was embarking on a whole new endeavor with this site!

Here is the video in its entirety.  I hope it sheds some light on where we came from and what the heck we’re thinking now.  I love that Gerald asked me some hard questions not only about how/why I want to teach my kids, but threw the words the naysayers are whispering about us not knowing what we’re doing.  I love it – questions and challenges?  BRING ‘EM ON! 

And yes, you get to see Papa Gray make his grand debut by crawling in at the side around 28 minutes in.  Yes, I said crawling. Seriously – you have to watch it.

Finally, check out the “Free Stuff” page on his site.  I haven’t made it to all the links yet, but it looks like I’ll have plenty of info to get started.  Let me know what you think!

Every decision we make as parents ultimately affects our kids.  Knowledge of this fact will either cripple you in fear or energize you to action.   Either way, our kids are a direct reflection of us and those around us.  To add to this monumental task, Mama Rose and I have decided to home-school our kids.

Now I know what many of you are thinking…it’s the same thing I used to think when someone uttered that conservative word dripping in stereotypes.   Visions of my children writing on hand-held chalkboards and calling me “Papa” flash in my head as I confidently protect them from the evils of the world.

I want to do the exact opposite! 

I want my kids to see, hear, touch, taste, smell, and experience all that this wide world has to offer.  

The idea of sending them to a monochromatic brick-o-block school house where they will be put on our traditional assembly line of knowledge makes me want to do more, give more, and be more for my kids education.

Too often (me being in this category) our kids exit this system, with a shiny new diploma that depreciates faster then a new car driving off the lot.

We/They are left feeling lost, alone, used, depressed, and then stuck…in whatever sticky job we fall into in the name of security.

Just think of the power of doing the exact opposite of what the “system” provides.  I want to be like Keating in Dead Poet Society, asking those questions to excite and educate my kids.

What would you do if you were given the steering wheel to your child’s education?  How would you direct, stretch, encourage, expose, protect, challenge, develop, etc.?

These are important questions that are not just for those who willing/able to immerse their kids in this world.  How well do we show the world to our kids in our down time, time off, or weekends?

What are we doing, you ask? Heck if we know! Seriously, this is the deal: We know what we don’t want for our children:

  • have a 40-hour work-week
  • require them to memorize merely for the sake of passing a test
  • force them to choose their friends based on the grade/age/zoning they are in
  • give them a black and white process of learning
  • create a resentment or aversion to education

I can’t knock any one educational system.  There are pros and cons to each.  It’s easy to point out the bad (public school kids can get lost in the crowd, private school is too expensive, homeschoolers are lost in the Little House on the Prairie).  However, I don’t want to lay the groundwork that we’re choosing a new path because everyone else is wrong.  This is exactly the message I’d be mortified for my kids to think. Let me tell you this – education is NOT the bad guy.

We are choosing a lifestyle that works for us.  I think, ultimately, we’d all like to have this for our kids.  This is what we do want for our girls:

  • an ability to think outside of the box
  • a desire to learn, always
  • understanding on how to find an answer for themselves
  • ease in interacting with people of all ages/creed/ability/ethnicity
  • confidence in who they are and who they aspire to be

For us, the path is clear.  We’re forging our own path.  We’re not sure where it’s going to take us, but we want to learn with our children.  We want to give them the tools to live up to everything they want to, and we want to teach them not merely for the sake of education, but because learning is fun and makes life sweeter. This is what it’s all about.  Welcome to our journey – we’ll all learn along the way!